As expectations regarding good manners differ from person to person and vary according to each situation, no treatise on the rules of Etiquette nor any list of Faux Pas can ever be complete. As the Perception of Behaviors and actions vary, Intercultural Competence is essential. However, a lack of Knowledge about the Customs and Expectation s of people of Latin America can make even the best intentioned person seem rude, foolish, or worse.
There are several definitions of Latin America, but all of them define a huge expansive of geography with an incalculable amount of different customs, However, some generalizations can be made:
- As every definition of Latin America connotes a shared cultural and linguistic legacy with roots in Spain and Portugal , and to a lesser extent France , many points of Etiquette In Europe are applicable, especially those specific to those nations.
- Compared to much of the English -speaking world, people from areas of Latin America may demonstrate more relaxed and casual behavior and be more comfortable with loud talk, exaggerated gestures and physical contact. Erin Richards For example, is common to greet known people by kissing he/her in the cheek. Cultural Etiquette September 19th, 2006
- In addition, many Latin American people have a smaller sense of Personal Space than people from English-speaking cultures. It may be rude to step away from someone when they are stepping closer. Erin Richards Cultural Etiquette September 19th, 2006
- In addition to varying greatly from one individual to another and along various demographic lines, this tendency towards comparatively warm and relaxed behavior does not necessarily hold true among many communities of Indigenous Peoples , including those who have adopted Spanish or Portuguese as their primary language.
- At some finer restaurants, it may be considered rude for the staff to bring a customer the check without the customer first requesting it.
- It is considered impolite to "toss" objects to people instead of directly handing it to them. U.S. Institute of Languages Spanish Culture and nonverbal communication
- At the workplace, indiscrepancies, errors or overall poor performance should be pointed out in private. Mentioning them in front of other colleagues (such as in a meeting) is perceived as hostile.
- The American "come here" Gesture of palm upwards with the fingers curled back is considered a romantic solicitation.
- Throughout Latin America, there are communities of people with strong ethnic and cultural ties to other parts of the world. One example is the 1.5 million strong Japanese Brazilian community for whom certain points of Etiquette In Asia may be applicable. Some of these same points of etiquette would in apply in Chinatowns In Latin America . Argentina has large communities of German Argentines , Irish Argentineans , and so on.
- In many instances, points of etiquette applicable to Latin America will also hold true with Latino people in the United States .
The following points of etiquette apply most specifically to a certain region:
There are important differences in social interactions and customs between the Andean area and the lowlands. The following apply mostly in the Andean area.
- When hosting you need to serve any kind of food to your guest and insist that they eat. Putting a plate of finger food in the middle for people to help themselves creates an awkward situation for most Bolivians.
- Bolivians acting as host will often belittle and apologize for the food they are serving. This is just politeness.
- When you finish eating in company, even strangers, you must say ''provecho''. This is answered with ''gracias''.
- In the countryside guests will be served a plate and left alone to eat. This is courtesy and goes on until you've been accepted as a close friend of the family.
- Andean people are not very tactile. Rather than hugging, men will tap each other's shoulders. Cheek-kissing with women is a city thing. In the countryside any Public Display Of Affection between a couple, starting from holding hands, even if married, is at least awkward. Among youngsters, friends of the same sex may hold hands and even hold each other by the shoulder, in public. Handshakes are softer and as a show of appreciation may hold a little longer, only between friends of the same sex.
, it is assuredly a large and heterogeneous region with myriad expectations regarding etiquette. In this picture, Afro-Brazilians demonstrate Capoeira .]]
- Brazilians speak Portuguese , ''not'' Spanish. Addressing someone that speaks Portuguese in Spanish may be considered extremely offensive12.
- Brazilians consider themselves to be "Americans" - as all North and South Americans rightly may. Do not use the phrase "in America" when referring to the United States, because America for them is only the continent.
- In Brazil , a form of the American "okay" Gesture is obscene when directed at someone. However, the standard "okay" gesture is also used, as is the " Thumbs Up " gesture.
- The gesture of "flipping someone off" by hitting the wrist against the inside of the elbow (sometimes called "a banana" in Brazil) is considered playful and not very offensive (in some other parts of the world, this is more akin to " The Finger ").
- Giving someone of the opposite gender a gift may be misinterpreted as a romantic overture.
- In many cases, it is considered immasculine for a man to publicly touch himself near the buttocks, even (for example) to brush off sand when at the beach.
- When offering something, especially food, Brazilians will often repeat the offer several times and with increasing enthusiasm. Offering something only once can be rude. It is not impolite to refuse such offers, and in some cases they may be made just to be polite without really hoping a person will accept.
- In some parts of the country, most notably rural areas, it is considered rude to walk up to a house or apartment door and knock. The appropriate action is to stand in the yard and clap one's hands. If no one comes to the door, then the visitor may approach the door, knock, and then step back away from the door and await a response. This is especially applicable in regards to small, thin-walled cottages that offer less privacy than homes in North America.
- In Brazil's "jogo do bicho", an illegal lottery based on zoo animals, the number 24 is for the Deer group. Since this animal is strongly associated with male homosexuality assigning a man in any way to the number 24 (e.g.: a sports jersey or seat number) can be considered rude.
- Gifts are never opened in public unless the giver insists.
- Group waves are extremely unacceptable.
- After finishing dinner, expect to stay for a few hours. Leaving right away might be perceived as that you were there only for a free meal.
- Avoid discussing the Drug Trade . This is a delicate subject in Colombia.
- The elderly are given high respect; men are often referred to as Don and women as Doña, followed by their first names.
- There is a strong sense of cultural regionalism in Colombian society. Many Colombians (especially but not exclusively the older generation) identify themselves first with their home region, then their nationality.
- Colombians that do not know each other typically begin every issue with small talk, no matter how trivial. "Getting to the point" immediately might be seen as impatient and impolite.
- Colombians have a great variety of regional accents. If you speak fluent Spanish, do not try to imitate the accents, for it may be viewed unfavorably by some.
- It is considered improper and slightly immature for adult men to wear shorts (except in recreational areas, such as parks, the beach, or pools).
- It is not usually acceptable to drop by someone's house without calling.
- In most areas (i.e. Bogotá ) it is common for men to greet women friends kissing once on the cheek.
- Dominicans can be very direct. They may give you nicknames or poke fun at your appearance, but this is not meant to be taken personally; that is simply their way of breaking the ice.
- Personal questions may be asked at an earlier time than what North Americans and Europeans are accustomed to.
- Dominican society is extremely family-oriented. It is not uncommon for childhood friends to refer to themselves as siblings.
- Nepotism is viewed positively.
- Do not immediately refer to darker Dominicans as black unless they openly consider themselves as such. Between "black" and "white", there are several racial terms in Dominican society.
- Avoid discussing Haitian immigration.
- Visitors to Ecuador often marvel at the brightly-colored traditional attire. However, it is impolite to Photograph someone before asking permission. Some people will ask for a tip in exchange for this favor and to begrudge them this source of income is considered unkind. Moreover, do not dress in traditional attire; this will be perceived as mocking the local culture.
- Beachwear should only be worn at the beach and not in towns.
- Never refer to someone as an "Indian", unless they happen to consider themselves so.
- Although tied more closely to France than Spain or Portugal, the etiquette regarding Haiti are generally similar to other Latin American countries.
- Haitians often signify particular people through appearances or characteristics. Calling someone "white man" (blan) and "the dark skinned one" (neg) are often mere terms of acknowledgement with no racist overtones.
- Entering a household and not greeting the elders or owners of the household is regarded as highly offensive.
- Being overly generous can be interpreted as offensive as to them it may seem as if you pity them.
- Eating is considered a social event and so withdrawing from the center of activities during meals is considered slightly offensive.
- Avoid discussing Dominican life to Haitians as well as the corruption within government, as these are sensitive subjects.
- The infamous Haitian Creole phrase "Langet Manmanw" is highly offensive, insulting one's mother. Uttering this to someone will almost positively provoke conflict.
and Singing is a part of Mexican etiquette and culture. The image depicts a woman dancing the Baile Folklorico in the tradition dress of Jalisco .]]
- The color purple is associated with funerals and should be avoided when giving Flowers .
- The courtesy titles "Señora" and "Señorita" (Mrs. and Miss, respectively) are taken colloquially as "Married Woman" and "Virgin Woman". This follows Catholic prohibitions against intercourse outside of marriage. Hence, it is more polite to address even an elderly woman as "Señorita" if her marital status is unknown. To do otherwise impugns her character.
- When an invitation is issued (such as to go to dinner or to a bar), invitees typically assume that everything will be paid for.
- Several kinds of food are eaten with the fingers ( Tacos , tortas, etc.) Eating them with a fork and knife is viewed as both snobbish and comical. In case of doubt, follow the lead of other diners.
- Before starting to eat, saying "Buen provecho" or simply "Provecho" (lit. I hope the food is good for you) is expected to wish the others at the table a good meal.
- Toasting with water (and, to a lesser degree, any non- Alcoholic drink) is regarded as bad luck.
- Women expect doors to be opened for them by males. This also applies to lighting of Cigarettes and helping them to their seat. None of these actions are construed as Flirtatious .
- As in the USA, unless service is atrocious, tips should never be below 10% of the bill total as they are commonly a waiter's main means of income. 15% or more is most appropriate.
- When dealing with someone with an academic degree in a formal situation, it is usual to mention it. For a BA-level, the distinctions are clear (Ingeniero and Licenciado for graduates of Engineering programs or for most other fields, respectively). Afterwards, it's usual to call a Master "maestro" and a Doctor-level student "Doctor". If used outside a formal situation, the titles might sound ironic.
- It is common for men to greet ladies (and vice-versa) by kissing one time on the cheek. It is even used when only being introduced to someone.
- When someone sneezes, you should say "Salud" (lit. "Health"). This is the equivalent for "bless you" in United States. The person who sneezed should respond with "Gracias" ("Thank you").
- In Nicaragua , exchanges of hospitality are important. Refusing a drink (especially on a hot day) or not praising the host on the quality of the meal is considered rude.
- Exchanging greetings is also very important. Seeing (even at a distance) someone one knows typically prompts approaching them to exchanging handshakes and kisses as appropriate. Waves and verbal salutations do not suffice.
- Remember that Puerto Rico is politically part of the United States and Puerto Rican People people frequently travel back and forth from the island to such cities as Boston and New York and have for generations. As such, most rules of Etiquette In The United States are applicable here as well.
- Among Puerto Ricans, conversations are usually very interactive and full of interruptions. Interruptions mean interest in the subject discussed; silence denotes disinterest rather than paying close attention. If you're talking to someone else and a third person joins you, you are expected to stop what you're saying and acknowledge the newcomer.
- Watching Television is a very social activity. Asking for quiet is typically both unreasonable and impolite.
- People's hygiene habits are scrutinized, especially in the tropical climate of Puerto Rico itself. People are expected to take one or more baths or showers daily. Body odor, unshaven legs and underarms in women, bare feet, or wrinkled clothing are considered disgusting. Many men wear cologne.
- Salsa , Merengue and even Reggaetón may seem like "sexy dancing", but there are unspoken rules. It is rude for a man to dance too close to a woman who is not his wife or girlfriend, even if others seem to be doing it.
- It is considered vulgar and ostentatious to open gifts in public. Gifts are never opened in front of a group of people to avoid people comparing the merits of different gifts.
- Women in Puerto Rico are very independent and many of them dislike to feel patronized or bound to traditional roles. While talking to a woman in informal situations avoid calling them "señorita" (miss) or "señora" (mrs), as they could interpret those titles as 'inexperienced'/'ignorant' or 'old'.
- In Venezuela , it is often considered rude to point at a person or even an object with the index finger. People typically point with the whole hand or with a movement of the head and a puckering of the lips towards that which is being indicated.
- In many situations, punctuality is less important than it is for people elsewhere. Showing up exactly on schedule for a party or gathering is undesirable.
- Coffee or a cold drink is typically offered to guests. It is often polite to decline.
- Street directions are expected to be given in a very detailed manner, very often describing trees and the color of buildings near by. Ommitting an obvious landmark such as a mango tree or a bright red wall is considered careless.
- When a male is introduced to a female, it's expected for the male to make the motion and kiss the female once on the cheek along with a handshake. The handshake should start gentle and match to the female's grip.
- When visiting someone's home, remember to bring along something for the house. For example, a small decorative piece if you are familiar with the decorative style, a dessert, or a bottle of the man of the house's favorite alcoholic beverage. For an informal lunch visit it is common to bring fresh bread from one of the numerous bakeries, or a bottle of soda. For breakfast, white cheese or shredded beef for the arepas are always welcome.
- When entering a room with other people, it is a friendly and informal gesture to say just "Buenas" instead of the full "buenos dias" (good morning) or "buenas tardes" (good afternoon).
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