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Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly between Culture s, Ethnic Group s, Religion s, Countries , and Social Class es and often reflect a particular view of Marriage . ITALIAN CUSTOMS At the start of a typical Italian wedding reception, the Bridal Party and the rest of the guests are separated for an hour and served cocktails. The food during Cocktail Hour is served in a Buffet setup. During the cocktail time, the bride and the groom usually take their time to shoot photographs in a proper setting. At the conclusion of cocktail hour, the guests will gather in the main dining room. The newlywed couple is introduced with much fanfare and they take their first dance, with the bridal party following soon after, who are then ultimately joined by the rest of the guests. Afterwards, everyone is seated, speeches are made by friends and family, and everyone champagne toasts the wedded couple. Food is plentiful during most weddings, and Italian custom is no exception. Between courses, the MC will encourage dancing. After the bulk of the courses have passed, it is time for the Cake Cutting , which ushers in the Dessert course. In Sicilian customs, the dessert course is often presented as a Viennese Table , a dazzling array of pastries, fruits, coffees, cakes, (etc) are presented in great quantity with much celebration. This is often called Vienna Hour. After dessert, more dancing commences, gifts are given, and the guests eventually begin to leave. In Southern Italy, as the guests leave, they hand envelopes of money to the bride and groom, who return the gift with a Wedding Favor , a small token of appreciation. In Northern Italy instead, the Wedding Favor is still given, but no tradition of envelopes with money resists. UNITED STATES CUSTOMS
the bride usually wears a white dress.
Christian weddings A Christian or mainstream wedding and reception follow a similar pattern to the Italian wedding. Customs and traditions vary with part of the country, ethnic group, social group, and so on, but components include the following:
At the Wedding Reception following the ceremony, sometimes at the same location but sometimes at a different venue:
Wedding gifts Originally, the purpose of inviting guests was to have them witness a couple's marriage ceremony and vows and to share in the bride and groom's joy and celebration. Gifts for the bride and groom are optional, although most guests attempt to give at least a token gift of their best wishes. Some brides and grooms and families feel that, for the expense and effort they put into showing their guests a good time and to wine and dine them, the guests should reciprocate by providing nice gifts. No etiquette book or rule condones this belief. The couple often ''registers'' for gifts at a favorite store well in advance of their wedding. This allows them to create a list of preferred or needed household items, usually including a favorite pattern for china, for silverware, and for crystalware; often including linen preferences, pots and pans, and similar items. With older brides and grooms who might already be independent and have lived on their own, even owning their own homes, they sometimes register at hardware or home improvement stores. This is intended to make it easy for guests who wish to purchase gifts to feel comfortable that they are purchasing gifts that the newlyweds will truly appreciate. Etiquette rules prohibit the bride and groom from soliciting gifts, which would preclude them listing their place of registry, for example, in their wedding invitations. Guests are supposed to ask for this information if they want it; however, many couples do include the information in their invitations with the intention of making it more convenient for guests. Many older guests, often find bridal registries vulgar. They can be seen as an anathema to traditional notions behind gift buying, such as contravening the belief that "one should be happy for what they receive", taking away the element of surprise, and leading to present buying as a type of competition, as the couple know the costs of each individual item. African-American customs See Also: Jumping the broom Jumping the broom developed out of the institution of Slavery In The United States . Slaves had no right to legal marriage; slaveholders considered slaves property and feared that legal marriage and family bonds had the potential to lead to organization and revolt. Marriage rituals, however, were important events to the Africans, who came in many cases come from richly-ceremonial African cultures. When faced with the loss of the right to marry, many created new rituals with what was on hand. Taking Marriage Vows in the presence of a Witness and then leaping over the handle of a Broom became the common practice to create a recognized union. This symbolized the crossing of a threshold and the taking of a "leap of faith." Brooms are also symbols of the Hearth , the center of the new family being created. Jumping the broom has become a practice in many modern weddings between Black Americans. ROMANIAN CUSTOMS See Also: Lăutari Lăutari are traditional musicians performing traditional Gypsy songs. The music of the lăutari establishes the structure of the elaborate Romania n peasant weddings, as well as providing entertainment (not only music, but Magic Trick s, stories, bear training, etc.) during the less eventful parts of the ritual. The lăutari also function as guides through the wedding rituals and moderate any conflicts that may arise during what can be a long, alcohol-fueled party. Over a period of nearly 48 hours, this can be very physically strenuous. Following custom almost certainly dating back at least to the Middle Ages , most lăutari rapidly spend the fees from these wedding ceremonies on extended Banquet s for their friends and families over the days immediately following the wedding. CHINESE CUSTOMS See Also: Chinese marriage Although Chinese wedding customs vary from province to province, and from region to region, there are some basic and common themes in the traditional Chinese wedding. Both the bride and groom are usually dressed in red, as red is the color of celebration and good fortune. The bride, with a red veil or large embroidered hankerchief over her head (much like the Western custom of a white wedding veil), and is lead by the groom to where the parents are seated. Once there, the couple then kneels and Kow-tow s to their parents, and to their ancestors - taking note to bow and kow-tow to all four directions (north, south, east and west). They will also pour Tea and serve it to their parents, which then the parents accept and gives the couple a Red Envelope (or hong-bao) filled with cash. Usually, the mothers will take this opportunity to also give the bride many pieces of gold jewelry or Heirloom s. After this ceremony, it is considered that the couple is married, and the family and guests spend the evening feasting and drinking all night long. During this meal, the bride will change her outfit several times; generally a new outfit for each course. This shows her new family, and her guests her wealth and Status . Often times, many games will be played during this banquet. Guests give the bride and groom gifts of cash, stuffed in Red Packet s or envelopes. In more recent years, a new custom has emerged where the wedding guests will escort or sneak into the new couple's room, to play games and pranks. As Chinese custom requires that hosts (in this case, the newlyweds) can not be rude to their guests, and can not ask them to leave - this celebration can last for several hours. Another more modern tradition occurs before the tea ceremony. The bride is hidden in a room and her attendants (called "sisters," even if the women are not biologically the bride's siblings) try to prevent the groom and his attendants ("brothers") from coming in to pick up the bride. They try to get the groom to bid for the bride, asking for money in 8s or 9s. They also ask the men (especially the groom) trivial questions, such as "where did you meet the bride?" Sometimes, the women would ask the groom and his attendants to write a poem about the bride or do silly tricks. At the end, the women are given money by the men. Also see Chinese Tea Culture , Red Packet (or Envelope) SCOTTISH CUSTOMS Scotland has historically been a favourite place to get married, due to the fact that in Scotland, parents' permission is not required if both the bride and groom are old enough to legally be married (16). In England it was historically the case that if either was 16 or 17 then the permission of parents had to be sought. Thus Scotland, and especially the blacksmith's at Gretna Green , became a very popular place for couples to elope to, especially those under 18 and usually living in England. Gretna Green now hosts hundreds of weddings a year and is Scotland's third most popular tourist attraction. A Church Of Scotland wedding and reception generally follows a fairly established set of customs and practices although most couples chose to adapt these to their own personal circumstances and preferences. The days of slavishly following etiquette and now largely behind us, although no doubt Granny might disagree. Typical customs:
Wedding gifts Originally, the purpose of inviting guests was to have them witness a couple's marriage ceremony and vows and to share in the bride and groom's happy day. Guests are generally expected to bring a gift of their best wishes. The couple often ''registers'' for gifts at a favourite store well in advance of their wedding. This allows them to create a list of preferred or needed household items, and does tend to reduce the duplication of gifts. Though, Bridal Registries, particularly by older people, can be seen as vulgar. Taking away from traditional notions of present giving, such as one should be grateful for what they receive, the element of surprise, recipients knowing the cost of a present. It has led to the more controversial practice of couples openly asking for guests to give them money not presents, in cultures where this is not the established norm. Apocryphal stories abound about people actually making profits off their weddings and sending invitations with space for people to fill in their credit card details. Recent Weddings in Scotland A selection of well-known people who have got married in Scotland recently Madonna (entertainer) and Guy Ritchie (2000); J. K. Rowling (2001); Stella McCartney (2003); Gordon Sumner and Trudie Styler; Ewan McGregor . See also External links
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